Nina Hartley: Pornography Is ‘Not Meant To Be A Rulebook’

It seems like common sense that sex in porn doesn’t mirror what men and women do in their own, non-commercialized bedrooms. But this point gets really driven home in “Porn Sex vs Real Sex: The Differences Explained With Food,” a video which shatters the illusion the porn is anything like real sex by going back to basics: fruit metaphors. (See the video below)

Inspired by the video, HuffPost Live spoke to women working in the porn industry, and asked them to share what they believe the difference between porn sex and real sex is.

Jincey Lumpkin, Esq., Chief Sexy Officer of Juicy Pink Box, noted that porn involves, “posturing for the camera,” “flattering” angles and “cutting together of the scenes” — all of which, if reenacted by normal people, can “take away sometimes from the pleasure and enjoyment aspect” of their sexual experiences.

Nina Hartley, an adult film actress, agreed, emphasizing the performative aspect of porn. She told HuffPost Live host Caitlyn Becker:

Pornography is a paid, professional performance by actors. It is a fantasy, it is not meant to be a rulebook and guidebook or a how to as a general rule. And it goes to show how poor our sex education is in this country that people are reduced to looking at an entertainment medium for information about the body.

Both the “Porn Sex vs. Real Sex” video, and HuffPost Live’s conversations with Lumpkin and Hartley, contribute to a greater dialogue about porn as a sometimes unrealistic fantasy. The more we discuss these subjects, the more women and men alike will hopefully realize that they don’t have to force themselves to emulate what they see in porn films. Fantasy is great, but the reality of sex based on one’s own desires — and separate from the pressure to look or act a certain way — can be even better.

Read the full article and watch the interview with Huffington Post here.

 

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